So this is it, they are walking among us! We have reached
the point where people born in the mid first half of the 90’s are standing up
for the starting of their third decade ahead. But when our age are precisely
the double of theirs, does it really mean that our experiences throughout the
past 20 years can be seen as wisdom and we, in fact, can kind of predict how some
of their planes are going to turn up?
Let’s see: According to child development theories, a person
can only start fully thinking and understanding the world around age of 13. That
number is more than half of their current age. So, between ages 15 and 20
they really begin to start showing clear individual differences evidence, but progressively.
However, after 20, poof! They absolutely know how everything works or don’t;
a cosmic certainty flows through their existence looking like it is unfolding
all mysteries and, full of property, they just have all figured it out: They really believe they know how to make a relationship last for ever, as they also know why some of us have failed on this task and they absolutely seem to know what they want to do for the rest of their lives. But we know that although some people actually may follow a easy and predictable path, most of the people will struggle to keep their marriages, raise their children, and they also will realise how boring or how mistaken their professional life have become!
It is true though that these generations are the ones
setting up the new tendencies that in fact affect us all. The trendiness of
fashion, music, dancing, visual media, name it! They learn things, they change and
improve them. But then why my second paragraph is so sarcastically done in a way that
actually can denote some patronising? Allow me to keep building up my argument.
Coming back to university has placed me in a position where
I am surrounded by this generation.
There has happened a few times in which I witnessed
situations where arguing escalated to out of control: ‘You’re behaving very aggressive
towards me’, ‘I did not say that! You are projecting yourself over me’... That
was shocking to me as much as almost unbelievable to hear it when I had just heard how
these very same persons instigated and contributed to things got out of control.
Suddenly, the cause, the problem was outside of them, in somebody's else. I also
often hear that my generation is quite cynic and bitter as if life-scars have
moved us away from accomplishing our dreams successfully.
That makes me think: if you take 10 years out of my age I would still being a full grown up adult. However, if you take 10 years out of this
generation you are placing them in the middle of childhood! So, what experience
do they have to back up their dreams but hope and social constructs of
happiness? For example, growing up knowing that gays are able to form civil
partnerships, that they actually produce a huge annual party that congests
major capitals does not make sexual discrimination in-existent. What happened is
that for the past 20 years my generation have been tuning up with history, with
other generations that still interacting with us, showing that in order to
reach our dreams, we will have to do some adaptations. Unfortunately, the
massive majority of people haven’t realised that their lives today are a mess
because in the past they fed incompatible values related to the realities they wished
and acquired, whether it was due to religion or just culture.
There are an alarming number of men suffering from impotence
at age of 40 because life is no longer exciting, and that doesn't have nothing to
do with whether they love their partners; there are a serious number of women
that cannot even remember the last time they had an orgasm; believing that
there is ‘the one’ or ‘that a great love should be forever’ or ‘there is only one,
maybe two’ can be the reason why one still stuck in an unhappy relationship.
The second adulthood, where my generation lives, is just the
evolved and progressive part of the life spectrum. Our brains reached a maturate
state, similar to any other age, including age of 13, in a way that allow us to
feel and see the world in different perspectives, applying all what we learnt
in the past 20 years. We realise that there are patterns: at the 20’s, we have determination to pursue
our dreams and as much as we can’t be apart from our families, there are always
underlying issues creating constant friction with relatives. At 30’s, we
arrogantly and proudly manage all we have built so far, but some sort of
reconciliation with our families occurs. However, at the 40’s, somehow you realised
that the fact you were born in a family, in a culture, in an
environment, it may not describe or provide the best predicates of your true
nature and finally, you feel yourself as a whole complete individual, free from
inadequate values or beliefs. But this is like everything else in life: you
need to lick it to learn how it tastes it.
And that brings me to the title of this text. Who
knows me and had the chance to read my blog in Portuguese can endorse me when I
say: we cannot expect a child from the fifth grade to resolve ‘the
approximation formula’ usually learnt years later. There is a time for
everything. My generation in fact, using
age and personal experience to input some allege wisdom into a younger
generation’s mind is useless. For all that matters, we could, perhaps, operate
as lighthouses in the darkness though, providing some glimpses of the future or
showing some directions, but nothing much further than this.
I still don’t see that generally my generation patronises the younger one, as I believe they live oblivious from how things really develop, not able to fully comprehend it. However, I can understand why they feel this way. I have always thought that those who hold knowledge and wisdom are truly responsible for the balance, so let’s make an effort and zip up!
I wish all generations a fantastic integrated and peaceful week.
Eduardo Divério.
I still don’t see that generally my generation patronises the younger one, as I believe they live oblivious from how things really develop, not able to fully comprehend it. However, I can understand why they feel this way. I have always thought that those who hold knowledge and wisdom are truly responsible for the balance, so let’s make an effort and zip up!
I wish all generations a fantastic integrated and peaceful week.
Eduardo Divério.
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