It has been impossible, considering all the postings in the Facebook,
not acknowledge the increasing amount of messages about how inspiring,
intelligent, mature, and wise is to have some use of silence. I quite start to
resent that. Disregarding a nice weekend in the country, away from those noisy neighbours,
in total silence, the whole silent talk, seriously, pisses me off!
If silence gives consent but it is also the best way to
despise someone, or something, how exactly are we making a point?
I have already lived enough to know that when the water
level goes up we raise our feet high, oh we do, we do! And Freud used to say
that when pain reaches an unbearable level, one shouts. But if shouting is
precisely the opposite effect we are expecting from silence, putting away all the
effort giving so far, would that really be inspiring, mature, and wise holding
something up to the morphine needs?
Ok, you might be thinking of that kind of silence caused by
contempt or carelessness, the kind that any pain would increase that much on a
level that could make you scream. But are we deaf to the screaming from those
around us? Especially those merged into a phony tranquillity?
Well, enough with so many question marks! One’s silence can
be causing unbearable pain to another person and let’s be fair: one wasn’t
properly praying in the middle of all of this!
What I want to say is silence provides a fake sensation of tranquillity,
an unreal feeling that nothing is going on or that one has no responsibilities
whatsoever upon an event and then, quite juvenile perhaps of myself, it is very
hard not to remember ‘The Little Prince’.
Obviously, I am not referring here to tiff or flamed
discussions nether consumable debates where, indeed, silence can be a real
Master. I am referring here to all that connects with a person’s emotion,
feelings, and sensations also connected to you, in any kind of interaction,
somehow.
Silence, disguised as Hindu or Chinese wisdom, when not
related only and exclusively to one’s internal process, to something that only
affects this one, reveals irresponsibility, laziness, denial, shame (matured or
not), fear, insecurity, procrastination, bad mental organization and lots of
angst into someone waiting for some word.
There is always something that can be said. At least, saying
that one does not have conditions to talk about the issue. However, shouting is
a right of anyone under pain, fairly or not. In the meantime, silence itself,
will not do a fair judge.
I wish all a silently week of introspection so you can
always know what to say in order to break the silence with inspiration,
intelligence, maturity, and wisdom.
Eduardo Saldanha Divério.
